Published in About Me Stories·PinnedAbout Me – Ese Walter“Maybe my life hasn’t been so chaotic it’s just the world that is and the only real trap is getting attached to any of it. Ruin is a gift. Ruin is the road to transformation.” – Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat Pray Love — The Eat Pray Love quote above perfectly captures my life’s journey. Hi 👋 I’m Ese (pronounced Essay) I have been on Medium for a while and didn’t realize I wasn’t fully utilising the platform.About Me3 min read
Jun 21How Going Viral in 2013 Disrupted My Online WritingWhy I write today is still why I wrote scores of Journals from my teenage years. — Going viral was the unexpected result of sharing my pain online. Isolation was the price for writing about something most people don’t want to talk about. In 2019, a Facebook friend told me she googled me. My heart was supposed to sink as I considered whether or not to block…Esewalter4 min read
Jun 15What Laura Ikeji in The Real Housewives of Lagos Ep. 10 Taught Me About Trauma ResponseOr maybe its my Projection — Being a Trauma researcher and all — Characters in movies and TV shows reflect, validate and introduce me to denied and unconscious aspects of myself. When I first heard about The Real Housewives of Lagos, I wasn’t going to watch it. I thought it was a repackaged Big Brother, and I am bored of BB. A few…Lauraikeji4 min read
Jun 12How 90s R and B Songs Taught me About HeartbreakI have never been heartbroken… at least not by a lover This morning I was listening to one of Toni Braxton’s old albums. It reminded me of those days I used to sing and dance to her music. …Heartbreak3 min read
Jun 11What My 3-Year-Old Taught Me About My Fear of IntimacyHugging Is The Best Thing My Kids Taught Me — I don’t remember being hugged growing up. I don’t remember any ‘I love yous.’ I don’t think it was a thing to tell us kids “I love you” and a part of me understands why. As I grew older, I realized hugs didn’t happen unless I initiated them. And even…Intimacy4 min read
Jun 528 Published Articles, 80 Drafts and 160 responses later, I have found my NicheIt has always been a thread through all my writings — The first time I heard about a niche, I thought, ‘I have too many things to write about, I can’t have a niche for my writing.’ Daily postings in May (Mental Health Month) revealed why I love to research Mental Health. Motherhood and Mental Health My first pregnancy was when I became aware that…Innerwork2 min read
Jun 1What 31 Days of Writing about my Mental Health taught me about Mental illnessBorderline Mummy is a WIP — Early days with Mental Illnesses When I was younger, my aunty told fictitious tales. She believed those tales were her life. I found her tales fascinating especially because I knew they weren’t real. The other thing I found fascinating was how the adults around my aunty behaved. She was like the family secret. The kind…Borderline Mummy5 min read
May 30The One Subject You Really Need to Study : Your Own ChildhoodI see how my Childhood experiences show up in my Adult relationships The Creative Adult is the Child who Survived Most of my childhood is a blur. Unable to rely on memory alone, I now keep journals as I used to as a teenager. I became curious about my childhood…Trauna3 min read
May 27WE DON’T TALK ABOUT SUICIDE ENOUGHThinking about suicide made me more present with my children — Suicide is an incredibly complex and taboo topic. Like anything death, we don’t talk about it enough. This is probably why this post lived in my drafts for three days before I decided to edit and publish it. I was at the beach the other day. Alone. My kids were…Suicide Awareness5 min read
Published in Coffee Times·May 25Inner-Work Letters: Transform Trauma into TriumphWhat 3 people are saying about this Newsletter — Inner Work Letters is a Newsletter publication for anyone learning to heal from trauma and childhood wounds. 11 years ago, I learned about childhood wounds and trauma. My intention was to heal my childhood wounds and learn to trust myself again. As I relearned new ways of being, I realized…Cc 62 min read
